Initial Inquiry

If you are contemplating a divorce, this section will assist you in determining how best to proceed, investigate your options, and help you make intelligent and informed decisions. Regardless of whether your case is a basic conventional divorce or a complex one, it is important for you to understand the process and your options. You may want to consider the following:

  1. Consult with a marriage counselor or therapist:
    1. Are you certain that you want a divorce? Can the marriage be saved? If so, how?
    2. If you decide to get a divorce, how and when should you tell the children?
    3. If you decide to get a divorce, how and when should you tell your spouse?
    4. If you decide to get a divorce, when should you file?
    5. Does the therapist focus on working with men, women, children or the relevant specific issues?
  2. Determine whether to retain a divorce attorney and which divorce attorney to retain:
    1. See Resources - Contact With our Firm
  3. Plan your initial consultation with an attorney:
    1. See Resources - Consultation Outline
    2. See Resources - Family Law Overview and review any specific Family Law pages that relate to your matter
  4. Determine which model or method of obtaining a divorce is appropriate for your circumstances: Traditional Model, Collaborative Model, or Mediation Model:
    1. See Divorce Process Options
  5. Educate yourself as to how to efficiently work with your divorce lawyer:
    1. See Resources - How to Speed the Process
  6. If you are looking for a minimal cost option or are planning not to retain a divorce attorney, see our 'Links' page for self-help centers, child support guideline calculator, etc.
  7. Referral Resources