Initial Inquiry

If you are contemplating a divorce, this section will assist you in determining how best to proceed, investigate your options, and help you make intelligent and informed decisions. Regardless of whether your case is a basic conventional divorce or a complex one, it is important for you to understand the process and your options. You may want to consider the following:

  1. Consult with a marriage counselor or therapist:
    1. Are you certain that you want a divorce? Can the marriage be saved? If so, how?
    2. If you decide to get a divorce, how and when should you tell the children?
    3. If you decide to get a divorce, how and when should you tell your spouse?
    4. If you decide to get a divorce, when should you file?
    5. Does the therapist focus on working with men, women, children or the relevant specific issues?
  2. Determine whether to retain an attorney and which attorney to retain:
    1. See Resources - Contact With our Firm
  3. Plan your initial consultation with an attorney:
    1. See Resources - Consultation Outline
    2. See Resources - Family Law Overview and review any specific Family Law pages that relate to your matter
  4. Determine which model or method of obtaining a divorce is appropriate for your circumstances: Traditional Model, Collaborative Model, or Mediation Model:
    1. See Divorce Process Options
  5. Educate yourself as to how to efficiently work with your lawyer:
    1. See Resources - How to Speed the Process
  6. If you are looking for a minimal cost option or are planning not to retain an attorney, see our 'Links' page for self-help centers, child support guideline calculator, etc.